Caregiver Tips
When someone we love needs more support in their life, it can become a big job and, at times, can be very challenging. This article provides some helpful tips for caregivers facing challenging situations.
8 Tips For Caregivers
1) Try To Be Objective
Take an objective “look” at the situation and consider both points of view…
- It can be challenging to know what the right support is for another person
- It can be hard to accept support from someone even if they are a family member
- When someone is living with brain change, they may not know that they need support
- Each person has their own likes, wants, and needs throughout each day
- Most family caregivers did not expect to be in this position
- Most family caregivers have not been educated in how to be a caregiver
- Being a caregiver can be exhausting
2) Take A Step Back
When things are not going well, take a step back and…
- Take 5 deep breaths
- Ask yourself, what are you seeing, and hearing that may help you understand the other person’s experience
- Try to see put yourself in the other person’s place
- Decide if this a time to take a break or try something different
3) Learn About “Lived Experience”
Try to understand and learn more about the “lived experience” of the other person, meaning:
- Reach out for support and knowledge. Orchard at Brookhaven is a community resource that specializes in caregiver strategies and support
- Know what the person’s abilities are
- Know what support is needed
- Know how to offer this support in a nonthreatening (anxiety decreasing) way
- Remember that no one wants to be told what to do
When someone does something that surprises us or seems irrational or illogical we generally label this as a behavior. But in fact, actions activity or actions are because:
- A person feels out of control and is trying to get control of their situation so they feel more secure
- Someone is trying to communicate a need
- Someone is trying to solve a problem
4) Respond
Consider the following when you get frustrated or angry:
- Stop trying to correct or trying to fix things
- Keep your voice calm
- Refrain from “reminding” the person or using the word “remember”
- Rather than argue, apologize even if you don’t think you need to
5) Connect
Relationship is the most important thing, so:
- Connect with the person
- Find ways to support their capabilities
6) Make A Plan
Plans will likely need to change, but consider the following:
- Make a schedule
- Don’t force your agenda – being tied to an agenda takes our focus off of the person and on to a task.
- Remember that everyone has their OWN agenda
- Think of alternatives before you need them
- Be creative
7) Talk To Someone
An outside point of view is almost always helpful, so consider what may be available in your community.
- Orchard at Brookhaven has professionals that can help support and guide you in your caregiving journey
- Orchard has many support groups and educational opportunities (view our Events Page)
8) Don’t Forget About Self- care
Self-care is extremely important, so consider the following:
- Find people around that can support you
- Reach out to a faith community or local support group
- When something isn’t working take a step back and 3 deep breaths
- Take a respite moment every day even if it is for 15 minutes
- Taking care of yourself is very important for you and your loved one
When someone we love needs more support in their life, it can become a big and challenging job. Orchard Senior Living understands this and is here to help. Visit our events page or contact us for more information about the programs we offer.
